I used to think I was just bad with change.
Not because I was scared of it — but because the disruption stressed me out.
New systems at work, new routines at home, new everything — it all felt like a thousand small interruptions to the rhythm I worked so hard to build.
But here’s what I’ve learned: change isn’t the problem.
Control is.
Once I stopped treating every disruption like a threat to my sanity and started treating it like an upgrade in progress, everything shifted.
It’s what makes me good at my job (looking at you, AI), a better partner, and a calmer mom.
This week, I’m unpacking why we resist change — and what happens when we finally stop fighting it.
I’m also sharing a few reflection questions to help you figure out what change might actually be trying to teach you.
Enjoy the read, share it with your friends, and let me know what you think.
— Dina
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For a long time, I thought I was “bad with change.”
Not in a dramatic way — just in the “please don’t update the software right before my big presentation” kind of way.
Change made me twitchy. It felt like someone shaking the snow globe of my life right when I’d finally gotten all the flakes to settle.
At work, it meant I overplanned. At home, it meant I micromanaged.
I wasn’t afraid of new things — I was afraid of losing my rhythm.
But here’s the truth: every time I tried to control change, I just ended up exhausting myself.
Because change doesn’t need your permission — it just needs your participation.
The moment I stopped treating it like chaos and started treating it like feedback, everything softened.
That’s the shift that made me a better leader.
It’s also the reason I don’t spiral every time something (or someone small and loud) throws my plans off track.
Now I see change as movement — proof that life’s still alive, still iterating.
It’s not the disruption that breaks you.
It’s the resistance.
🔌 Unplugged Truth
Most people don’t resist change because they fear the new.
They resist it because they grieve the familiar.
It’s not loss of control that hurts — it’s loss of predictability.
Our brains are wired for safety, and “known” = safe, even when the known isn’t working anymore.
The real flex? Learning to hold steady while everything around you shifts.
That’s where growth actually lives — in the tension between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.
🧯 Sh*t That Helped
Ask yourself these three questions next time you feel resistance creeping in:
1️⃣ What change in my life am I resisting right now?
Get specific. Is it professional? Personal? Emotional? Naming it pulls it out of the shadows.
2️⃣ What story am I telling myself about why it feels scary?
Is it the fear of failing, being seen differently, or losing comfort? The story reveals the fear beneath the surface.
3️⃣ What’s one way this change could actually help me grow?
Even if it’s uncomfortable, change usually expands your capacity — for patience, courage, or creativity.
🖊️ Closing Thought
Change doesn’t need to be your favorite thing.
But it deserves your curiosity.
As author Martha Beck says:
“Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.”
You don’t have to like change to benefit from it — you just have to stop fighting it.
And maybe, if you’re lucky, learn to dance with it a little.
Until next time,
Dina